The popularity of BDSM porn and this category on cam xxx sites is growing each day. An increasing number of people want to try it. And while there are still many misconceptions about BDSM practice, we can learn all about it on the internet and from the books today. Contrary to the beliefs of many, BDSM is a very healthy practice. Of course, if it is consensual and if everyone is getting something they like out of it. And because we have many great cam xxx BDSM models on SexedChat, we are inspired to write about submissive lovers today.
More precisely, we would like to write about the rules that every sub should follow. There are many of them, but they are not that hard to remember. If you want your BDSM relationship to be healthy, well-nourished, and full of treats, these rules should come in handy. Ready to become the best passive you can be for your Dom? Let’s see what you can do to experience the hottest and most enjoyable BDSM sex there is!
Keeping An Open Mind, Just Like Cam XXX Girls and Pornstars Do
In a D/s relationship, it is important to be open-minded. Both Doms and subs must endeavor to do so. That is the number one rule and one of the basics of a BDSM relationship. If you do not think you are open-minded enough, BDSM is probably not for you. When you see SexedChat cam xxx models, no matter if they are submissive, dominant, like foot sex, or just basics like dancing and oral sex, you can learn a lot from them. They are the most open-minded people in the world. And everyone that wants to be someone’s passive lover must be open to trying new things. Maybe even getting out of your comfort zone, but only if you get something out of it.
Learn That No One Can Force You to Obey Every Single Order and Always Agree
Just because you are someone’s sub, it does not mean you have to be too humble and inferior. Maybe you decided to try BDSM sex because receiving commands turns you on. That is okay. But never let your Dom cross the line. What is crucial here is to always communicate clearly, openly, honestly, and with a lot of respect. Let your active lover do things you said yes to in the first place, but if they try to make you do something it does not feel natural to you, you do not have to let them unconditionally. Respect them, but respect yourself first.
Know Yourself Well, Accept All Your Strong and Weak Points
Sex is an intimate thing, and pretty much everyone who is sexually active deserves to know themselves well. Your sexual exploits will be much better and more profound experiences for you if you are honest about who you are. That means you have to know what you like, and what you do not in bed. And when you practice BDSM, that is particularly important. The better you know yourself, the richer and sexier your intercourse will be!
Physical And Mental Health Are Vital for This Practice
You cannot be a sub if your mental health is not top-notch. Also, your physical health must be perfect. Imagine someone who is mentally or/and physically ill, and they get to be punished, tortured and treated like trash. That does not sound like a very smart thing to do, does it? But you know your own medical history and you have to be responsible for yourself. No one can do it better than you!
Setting Your Own Limits Before Anything Else Is One of The Priorities
As a sub, you have to speak your mind. BDSM is a very healthy practice if you do it right. You need to have a mutual agreement with someone who is responsible and trustworthy, who will respect you and make you feel good. And vice versa. But one of the misconceptions is that subs have no say in anything! That is far from the truth. You have to tell your cam xxx Dom what you are capable of and what you expect from them. And they need to agree to give you that, and only that.
BDSM Contract and Your Right to End It, Safe Words and Consents
Trying BDSM will sound fun to many, but if you are really serious about it, it is recommendable that you inform yourself well on the matter. What is a BDSM contract? Everyone who is intent and sincere about this practice should create one with their sub or Dom, and you can sign this document, pointing out what all the things you are consensual about are. But know that when you sign this contract, it does not have to be forever and it is not unchangeable. You always have a right to have a change of heart and end the contract.
And if you do not want to end the whole thing, talk to your cam xxx Dom about safe words. Set them, learn everything about them, then use them when you feel like they are being too brutal, or when they do things that you do not find enjoyable at all. These safe words will help you end the suffering or simply avoid situations and acts that are not your cup of tea. Every reasonable Dom knows the significance of safe words, and if they are really ready for a healthy relationship with you, they will be okay with them. When your Dom does not let you use safe words, it is not healthy anymore. It turns into a situation you need to escape.
No Changing the Dynamic of The Power in The Relationship
If you accept that you are a sub, and you find someone who wants to be a Dom, that is it. You cannot change the power dynamic in the middle of an act, without your Dom expecting it. This does not mean that you always have to be the sub and only sub. If you find someone who wants both, and you want it too, you can arrange all sorts of dynamics. But just do not try to set your own rules whenever you feel like it. These things also have to be consensual and mutual.
You Have to Follow the Rules and Trust Your Dom
This may not be easy. You never know who you are dealing with. But agreeing to a BDSM relationship should only happen with someone you trust. It should not be a complete stranger because that can be unpredictable. Your Dom must be a person of trust, and once you do agree to being their sub, it means you are accepting them to take care of you.
Are You Ready to Be Disciplined?
A sub is obedient and the passive lover in the dynamic because they want to learn to be disciplined. Once you become someone’s sub, you are saying yes to their commands, orders, treatment… Cam xxx doms are here to discipline you, and the point of these agreements is to follow the rules and not disobey and be too proud or too reluctant to do things for them. It is all just a game, so even if you are a proud person and someone who likes to be bossy and commanding with others, with your Dom, you are trying new things. You are opening to something new, an undiscovered side of you.
Be Clean, Well-Prepared, Groomed, and Whatever Directed
Some Doms will like to have sex with you only if you groom, others like hairy private parts. But probably most of them want you to be clean. Cleansing is crucial before your playtime, and you need to prepare all your toys, tools, devices, and whatever you will be using. Models on SexedChat always prepare their toys, special lingerie, collars, harnesses, masks, whips – we all have different things. But this is something your Dom will direct, and you just have to do as they please.
Your Dom Can Inspect You Whenever They Want
As a sub, you always need to be presentable and well-prepared. Your Dom can inspect you when they want and punish you if that is a part of your agreement. This is different for all couples, though. Some will want to inspect your body, others your house… It all depends on how deep your relationship is and what you let each other.
Asking for Permission to Masturbate and Use Toys
You think that your BDSM relationship only develops when you are together in the same room? A sub is a sub even when they are far from their Dom! Even when you are alone, you need to ask them permission to perform certain acts. If you want to masturbate, you need to ask your cam xxx Dom if they are okay with it. You also ask them about what toys you can use. Some Doms even order you to journal your experiences. It may sound tedious and like a big boring obligation, but it is a great way to learn discipline.
Even Orgasming Needs to Be Allowed First
Just like you have to ask for permission when you want to masturbate, it also goes for reaching the climax. Only when your cam xxx Dom allows it, you can orgasm. That is one of the hardest things to learn how to control. Your Dom can postpone your orgasm, ruin it, or let you have it fast and without delays when they want to reward you.
A Symbol of The Relationship That You Must Wear
Some subs wear collars, but every cam xxx BDSM couple can have their own symbol of the relationship. It can be different and they are diverse. When you decide on the symbol together, you have to be ready to wear it regularly for your Dom. Some subs will wear it in public, but again, this depends on the type of agreement. Some couples have more symbols. The one for the public places, the one for their private encounters… This symbol is actually what shows that your Dom is your owner. Today there are many types of collars, and you can be creative when choosing something for your relationship.
Using Agreed-Upon Honorifics and Titles/Nicknames
Every Dom-sub relationship has its own honorifics, titles, and nicknames. Some Doms like to be called Master. Others are more creative and they use different titles. As a sub, you will also have a nickname. This nickname serves so that you can always respond to it, in public or when you are alone with your Dom at a more private place. You also have to address your Dom by the agreed-upon title or honorific, and you have to take it seriously. Subs must not be too proud or ashamed of these names.
Kneeling And Crawling in The Presence of Your Dom
When your Dom enters the room, you have to kneel and crawl in his presence. This shows how much humble you are. You also want to show them that you appreciate them, respect them, and see them as your owner and someone with all the power. This is one of the more extreme sides of this practice, just like wearing a collar and using honorifics. This is not something every sub will agree to, but even if you do not, there will be some other ways to show them you see them as your owner, your dominant and active partner.
Preparing Food and Serving Your Dom Before Yourself
When your Dom is around, you serve them drinks and meals before you consume them yourself. You also have to cook for them, prepare food and snacks, drinks and treats they can enjoy. This does not only have to go for the kitchen. You do that in every room. But whenever you are with your Dom, you put their needs before your own. Some subs also need to be allowed to eat and drink first. You even have to ask for permission to use the restroom.
Wearing Clothes Your Dom Chose for You
Doms like to choose what their subs will say, do, eat, and even when they will orgasm. And one of the things they also enjoy controlling is what their subs wear. Sometimes this is just for their encounters. When you are together with your Dom, they will probably want to choose your lingerie, underwear, clothes, and even accessories. But some Doms also choose what you wear when you are not with them. You will probably have to send them photos, but in most cases, they pay for your outfits themselves, which is cool because you do not have to overspend just because they tell you to.
Working On Yourself According to Their Wishes
One of the biggest challenges of BDSM relationships is that Doms like to control how you work on yourself too. Basically, they like to control everything you do with your life. Even how often you exercise, what diet you are on, what books you can read… Again, this is one of the more extreme sides of cam xxx BDSM, but once you agree to it, you cannot choose what you want and what you do not want. If your Dom tells you to exercise, you have to do it no matter how much you hate it. You have to exercise as many times a week as they command you to. They even choose what gym you can go to and what sport you can do.
Making Purchases Allowed by Your Dom Only
If they can tell you if you should exercise or not and how often you do it, they also control what you buy. Your salary is not yours anymore because they choose how you can spend that money. What books, clothes, ingredients to buy, the brands of your basic necessities… They choose what coffee places you can go to, what DVD movies you can buy to watch… Pretty much everything! It takes a big strength to let them dominate you to that level. When you do not have a say in anything, it can be very exhausting because you may not like 80% of the things that they want for you.
As a sub, you can also journal everything you do, partially or in detail. It takes a lot of discipline to be this obedient and compliant, but journaling helps you do it with more ease. You may often feel like being disobedient on purpose. Some articles on the web speak about Doms enforcing the rules until you learn how to control your own behavior better. And yes, there are always less and more extreme parts of cam xxx BDSM. We wanted to include all the rules, for both those who try the extreme version and something lighter. But you never really have to do any of these things and you can use the safe words all the time. Yet, in the end, it is all just a game and a great way to learn something about yourself. If anything, you will learn how to be patient, humble and very disciplined.
